Coaching kids is a unique and important process. It can help them build a strong foundation for life by teaching them life skills at an early age. Emotional resilience, communication, and problem-solving are just some of the things that life coaching can help children with. In this article, we will discuss the importance of life coaching for kids and how it can help them grow into successful adults!
If you’re reading this, you probably have a few questions about what working with kids in this capacity looks like. Present, communicative and understanding parenting styles are a great start to making sure your child has all the tools (mentally and emotionally) in order to build a solid foundation for their lives. However, with the additional support and perspective from a life coach, your child can thrive, even at a young age.
So where do we start? Let’s take a look at some of the different aspects that make up life coaching for kids:
- Respecting (and Acknowledge) Individuality – As you’re probably already aware, there isn’t a “one size fits all” strategy to working with people of any age, including children. We all face different challenges at different points in our lives. To have an open mind and compassionate mindset can show children that they do not have to just “be one way”. As the parent of a child, it is important to take this into consideration, to remember that the journey of growth from child to child can vary greatly.
- Being an Inspiration – Over the years, our inspiration can wane and the bright candle that once represented our drive for excellence can be replaced with a dim flicker. As such, the examples that we set for our children can often be a reflection of how we feel about ourselves or what we believe is best for us.
Children, however, can have such a propensity for discovery, a fascination with wonder and thirst for knowledge/experiences that may not be reflected in our actions or day to day life. And that is ok! Recognizing this is a great first step in understanding how you can be a vital role model in your child’s life. Reconnect with what inspires you, brush the dust off of your passions, and, ultimately, reignite your inner light. We can get so much more from life when we focus on bringing those around us up.
- Small Wins are Big Wins – Back in the day, our accomplishments were measured in terms of activities like test scores and attendance. As we get older, it is harder to empathize with and celebrate these wins (since we have been introduced to and acclimated to the challenges of adulthood). Children, however, are still learning to hit these goals.
It is important to remember that celebrating these wins with your children helps them foster the mindset that they can accomplish what is important (which is different for everyone). By celebrating these wins, you send a message of encouragement (as well as helping children create standards of success for themselves). Not celebrating these wins can send a message of unappreciation or a lack of acknowledgement to a child, thus reinforcing to them that accomplishing these activities is not that important. Just like a forest is made of many trees, big wins are created by and comprised of smaller wins.
- Take a Step Back and Evaluate Expectations – Just like in the previous point, we often put too much pressure on children to succeed in life, even at a young age. The challenge can be that these expectations are usually based on our own experiences and successes (or failures).
We should take a step back and think about what our child is trying to achieve before putting any extra pressure on them. This will help us better understand how we can support them through life coaching. It is also important that, as coaches, we are able to effectively communicate with the parents of our clients. By doing this, we can help ensure that everyone is on the same page and that our goals for the child’s life coaching experience are in line with what their parents expect from us.
- Be Constructive – It is so important to be constructive when life coaching for, and with, kids. This means that, while it is important to be honest with children, we also need to be careful about how we deliver our message.
6. Choose Your Words Carefully – The words that we choose to use can have a profound effect on the way that our message is received. This is especially true when life coaching for kids.
When working with children, it is important to be aware of the language that we use. We want to avoid coming across as judgmental or negative. Instead, we want to focus on using words that will inspire and motivate them.
In order to bring all of these points together, a life coach for kids works to:
-Encourage them to find their voice
-Help them to identify and achieve their goals
-Teach them how to develop a positive mindset
-Foster a love of learning in them
-Build their confidence
-Teach them how to be resilient in the face of adversity.
We want to make sure that the child feels supported and encouraged, not belittled or discouraged. One way to do this is by using “I” statements. For example, instead of saying “You’re not doing this right,” you could say “I noticed that you’re having some trouble with this. Let’s see if we can figure it out together.” This will help the child feel like you’re on their side and that you’re working together to overcome a challenge.
It is also important to remember that there isn’t a “one size fits all” when it comes to life coaching for kids. Each journey is different from the next one, and it is important to remember that this process requires perseverance. It isn’t about winning the race, it is about learning about ourselves, our goals and about what we are drawn to.
At the end of the day, life coaching for kids is about helping them discover their own inner strength and resilience. It is a way to help children build a strong foundation for their future. When done correctly, life coaching for kids can have a lasting impact on their lives!